Why Waiting Is So Hard?


Waiting is hard for many reasons. Perhaps mostly, because we are born so dependant.

There is no other mammal born in such a helpless, dependant state. Some animals are on their own from birth but not the human. We require years of nurturing. Our interdependence is forged largely by the ability of our parents / carers also being less dependent with us.

When our parents fail to teach us the power of waiting we end up experiencing it the hard way, because life simply does not deliver everything we want when we want it.

I think it was Father God that was the first to really teach me the power of waiting. The times He was silent or didn't answer my prayers, these drove me deeper to understand the power of waiting. If God was a good God there would have to be a good reason He has declined my request or removed the feeling of His presence temporarily!

 Deuteronomy‬ ‭8:2-3‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“Remember how the LORD your God led you through the wilderness for these forty years, humbling you and testing you to prove your character, and to find out whether or not you would obey his commands. Yes, he humbled you by letting you go hungry and then feeding you with manna, a food previously unknown to you and your ancestors. He did it to teach you that people do not live by bread alone; rather, we live by every word that comes from the mouth of the LORD.”

‭‭One of the great christian virtues is temporance. Temporance, or chastity in the old language, simply means to wait and deny yourself to learn the art of self-control.

Temperance is helpful in every area of life but is clearly seen in these three:


Fasting trains my body to learn I don't need right now what my body is screaming I can't do without.


Waiting for friends to confirm their attendance trains my mind to understand that being alone is very different to being lonely.


Waiting to purchase goods trains my desires that none of these things truly satisfy.

In all these things I am being trained to understand that God wants to meet my needs in ways previously unknown to me or my parents. God is personal and He desires to forge a friendship that is life giving and nourishes every part of my life.

This kind of life is worth waiting for!