Jesus Style Marriage


Marriage has been a key component of healthy societies from the beginning. Those communities that value the sanctity of marriage seem to stand out as life giving and wholistic.

Whilst there are many of us who strive to contribute to the healthy picture of marriage and family, we all agree there have been days we have fallen short and added a sour taste. This does not stop us from trying though, because it is in us to reflect who God has made us to be.

 Matthew‬ ‭19:3-8‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“Some Pharisees came and tried to trap him with this question: “Should a man be allowed to divorce his wife for just any reason?” “Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied. “They record that from the beginning ‘God made them male and female.’ ” And he said, “‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.” “Then why did Moses say in the law that a man could give his wife a written notice of divorce and send her away?” they asked. Jesus replied, “Moses permitted divorce only as a concession to your hard hearts, but it was not what God had originally intended.”

‭‭A man needs a woman as much as a woman needs a man. We need each other. We were made for each other. Finding each other is one of life's great adventures. Julia and I often talk about how amazing it is that God brought us together. Two very different people from very different backgrounds.

Leaving and cleaving describes the process of growing up and away from our parents in order to rely on your new found mate. Whilst it was difficult to transition from parents to spouse, it forges two lives into a partnership of oneness.

This oneness also creates another one that comes from the two. Only as we get older do we further comprehend the enormity of parenting another human life. It's no wonder we should be committed above all differences to keep what God has joined together.

Today, Julia and I have been married for 24 years and I am grateful for all these things and more.

I am grateful that God has made a woman that makes it seem we were made for each other. A girl who surprises me regularly and lives out what it means to to be a friend of God. Together, we seem to complete a puzzle that would otherwise be hard to describe.

I am grateful for the parents that both of us had and that we were raised to stand on our own feet until we could lean into another that would begin our own oneness.

I am grateful that God has granted us two very special children that have come from the joining of our two lives together. Children who teach us every day about what it means to be human and rely on God in the most practical ways.

I am grateful that the longer we stay married the more I am realising it was God's plan all along.

And mostly, I am grateful that Jesus has plenty to say about marriage and family still today.